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I wrote an aro poem thing based on my feels. Some rhyming not intended Once upon a time, there was...

Sat, 02 Mar 2013 15:56:00 -0500

I wrote an aro poem thing based on my feels. Some rhyming not intended

Once upon a time, there was a person lost at sea.
This person wasn’t really lonely.
For there were plenty of fish in the sea,
“but none of them were for me.”
They drifted on the waves from place to place,
seeing many sights and things.
Occasionally, fish from the sea jumped into their boat,
trying to convince them that that they belonged in the water.
That they were the fish for them.
They declined every time, feeling sad that they couldn’t relate.
These fish were their friends, but not many of them understood.
Occasionally the person themselves tried to trick themselves in to thinking,
That they too was a fish who belonged in the sea.
“That that fish was the one for me,”
but deep down in their heart they knew
that none of these fish were their ‘mates.
While they loved these fish with all their hearts,
they knew that in the end, they would just be fooling themselves.
These fish were their friends, and they cared for them deeply,
but they knew that these fish cared for them in other ways.
And while not feeling lonely, they still sometimes felt alone,
as if they were the only ones stuck in a boat,
lost at sea, with no one around but their thoughts, but you see…
This person was not in fact alone, and while they went days without
seeing someone who wasn’t a fish in the sea.
Occasionally, they would run in to others lost in boats,
and they soon realized, that there were others who weren’t just fish in the sea.
That they weren’t weird for not wanting to swim in the sea.
And while they were kindred spirits, neither person was each other’s fish in the sea.
And that was okay.

Does anyone else get really annoyed by the “Women understand women, and hate them, so we...

Tue, 26 Feb 2013 14:22:17 -0500

Does anyone else get really annoyed by the “Women understand women, and hate them, so we shouldn’t try to understand them” I don’t know if I got that line completely right, but I run in to it more and more often recently.

You need to be dating to be happy

Fri, 09 Nov 2012 00:36:00 -0500

is the most annoying thing I run in to in my every day life since I was in high school. I would IM my friend who was home schooled during lab hours in class, and when I would laugh or smile at our jokes, people would assume I was dating someone. This still happens. I’m smiling on the streets, they assume I have a date that day. I’m snickering to myself in tutoring lab, I must be talking to my lover… No I was looking at cat pictures that time.

Usually I try to play it off as my laptop being my date, or that I must be married to tumblr and funny cat pictures. It still annoys me though. A good amount of my friends do this even if they know I’m aro~ace. The few that don’t understand otherwise, or are the people I was talking to when this happens. Cue jokes that both them and their girlfriend are both my dates.

I just really wonder where this sentiment comes from…

Can’t I be happy and be happy for myself without someone else involved? Hell yes.

Photo

Tue, 09 Oct 2012 13:30:01 -0400

A Thought on "Best Friends"

Tue, 09 Oct 2012 01:58:39 -0400

horribly-limited:

Being best friends with someone doesn’t mean that you Skype twice a week at a specific time every time. It doesn’t mean that you text each other all the time, or call every Sunday night before you go to sleep. You don’t have to litter their Timelines or their Ask Boxes with inside jokes or half-hearted “I love you”s in an attempt to keep the relationship as strong as it used to be.

Because if you really are best friends, you shouldn’t have to do any of that stuff to still be best friends. And you shouldn’t be upset if your counterpart in this relationship doesn’t do those things - people have lives beyond one friendship, and real best friends realize and respect that. Being best friends shouldn’t be work. It shouldn’t be hard. You shouldn’t feel threatened that the relationship is going to break just because your contact is somewhat lacking.

Being best friends with someone means that even when you’re apart for months, or sometimes even years, and you don’t keep up constant contact, and you both get other friends, and interests, and your personalities change, you still come back together at some point and you act like nothing has changed. Because nothing has. You’re still best friends. And if you feel like you need to prove that to each other, then you obviously never were.

So my friend is aro, and was recently looking for a community to talk to, so she went to her...

Mon, 08 Oct 2012 13:37:37 -0400

So my friend is aro, and was recently looking for a community to talk to, so she went to her school’s LGBT resource center. They told her to go ask her questions to tumblr…

So one of my asshole friend keeps commenting on how if I continue to play Harvest Moon, then...

Wed, 03 Oct 2012 19:23:48 -0400

So one of my asshole friend keeps commenting on how if I continue to play Harvest Moon, then I’ll never find anyone in real life. Of course I won’t find anyone I’m not looking. My other friend and I were discussing the newest HM game and how you have to date the bachelor / bachelorette before marrying them. I was wondering that if you have to date them, was there break up scene? Because that would rip my heart out. He kept commenting on me to look up the break up scenes because I’ll have to deal with it anyway since if I do find anyone, they’d break up with me right away. My counter was that I won’t have to deal with it, as I’ll become a spinster with 6 cats and that maybe my dream cats are out there.

Am I a sensual hypocrite?

Mon, 01 Oct 2012 19:21:54 -0400

thecoolmoniker:

metapianycist:

aceisgreat:

Rant about touching people and being touched (personal). Read if you’re cool, might follow up with a more general post:

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I also only like touching if I am the initiator (with very few exceptions). It’s not hypocritical to like touch only when you are the initiator. In my case, I can only enjoy touch if I am feeling completely safe and have some degree of control over it. If someone else initiates touch without asking, I feel very threatened by it.

I feel the same way.

I’m the same way. I’ve had a few friends who were very sensual and loved touching me or trying to kiss me, and I would bat them away or back off… Which led them to thinking I didn’t like them. I’m probably a lot worse with touch now that people tried to get me used to them touching me. I’m fine with leaning on others and occasional holding hands, if I initiate it.

tinystarkitten: Sexuality labels are not about being a special snowflake. They’re not about...

Sun, 30 Sep 2012 19:00:34 -0400

tinystarkitten:

Sexuality labels are not about being a special snowflake. They’re not about “getting” to say “I’m x-sexual and y-romantic!”. They’re not about making people acknowledge and pat the ass of everyone who dares be anything other than heterosexual. They’re not about micromanaging and unnecessarily categorizing the world. They’re just about identity.

They’re about feeling a certain way about certain people that can be really scary and confusing, especially when one grows up surrounded by heteronormativity. They’re about finding someone, anyone, who is similar, and being able to share a bond over that. They’re about discovering that this weird, uncomfortable fit you feel in the world around you is an experience shared by other people, and that it’s normal and okay. They’re about being able to come to terms with the confusing feelings because they have something to attach them to.

They’re just about the people who choose to attach one to themselves.

aromanticaardvark: psychetimelapse: palesexuality: why aren’t there friend pick up lines pick up...

Sun, 30 Sep 2012 13:01:43 -0400

aromanticaardvark:

psychetimelapse:

palesexuality:

why aren’t there friend pick up lines

pick up lines to make friends

like

“hey thats a cute dress you know where it would look better? on nobody else

because you’re a beautiful individual”

I think socialization would be easier in general if we reinvented romantic rituals to apply to buddyship. Pick-up lines, an actual way to break up with a friend, a holiday where we all buy cards and overpriced candy for the people we care about platonically…

Ooh, can we put that holiday somewhere soon after Valentines Day? Then the candy won’t be overpriced! It’ll be cheap and plentiful!

Yes, the world is in DEFINITE need of a way to break up with friends. And a Valentine’s Day equivalent.

We should all make this a Thing, you guys. What would be a good day for it?

jack-apple replied to your post: I generally reblog a lot of the ask question memes… There’s...

Thu, 27 Sep 2012 15:21:22 -0400

jack-apple replied to your post: I generally reblog a lot of the ask question memes…

There’s a completely non-romantic/non-sexual one here: rattyhugs.tumblr.com/po… :)

Oh! Thank you!!

it’s really awkward when I know someone is making passes romantically at me and I just really...

Thu, 27 Sep 2012 02:51:24 -0400

it’s really awkward when I know someone is making passes romantically at me and I just really don’t want anything to do with this. Especially since it’s one of your brother’s friends and you grew up with them. Abort conversation!

I generally reblog a lot of the ask question memes for like 3 or 4 of the options and wish to ignore...

Thu, 27 Sep 2012 02:28:28 -0400

I generally reblog a lot of the ask question memes for like 3 or 4 of the options and wish to ignore the sex and relationship ones but those are all the ones I ever get. Of course I know that’s just my friends messing with me but still.

aromanticaardvark: softerworld: A Softer World: 866 (Maybe...

Thu, 13 Sep 2012 13:08:12 -0400

aromanticaardvark:

softerworld:

A Softer World: 866

(Maybe I’ll learn a programming language or something instead.)

This gives me lithromantic thoughts. Does it for anyone else?

def feels lith to me uwu

affection without an ultimatum

Fri, 07 Sep 2012 14:41:48 -0400

lithromantic:

Sometimes I’m really proud to be lithromantic towards my queerplatonic partners. I think it saves them the pressure of returning affection or connectedness they might not feel like returning. especially the two who are in a romantic relationship. I don’t impose myself on their equation, or demand the same time, type or degree of love. they would never have to lie to me or grow resentful. I’m happy with whatever they should give me. happy just adoring them quietly, supporting them from my place on the sidelines, waving the pom poms.

I’m proud that I don’t limit them from loving whoever, however they wish, doing whatever they want. I hate having to justify my alone time, or other-people time, so I don’t ask that of them. people seem to think jealousy is the litmus paper for true affection, but to me it seems quaint. just somebody’s poor self-esteem used as shackles. no, I want my people to be free to take on the world, not waiting around for me. I love them as autonomous whole beings more than I love “us” as some unit.

This has been painted like an ugly thing in the past… like I’ve insulted my partner because I’m not interested in beating off their suitors. like I don’t love them enough. but I think it’s a truly selfless love… to let someone be free. of yourself, too. and I’m proud to be capable of that.

"The world lied and told me I wanted a lover when all I wanted was a friend."

Fri, 07 Sep 2012 13:23:57 -0400

“The world lied and told me I wanted a lover when all I wanted was a friend.”

- (via tinypolytheist)

Sometimes I wish I had more of a use for this blog. Although I haven’t had much to talk about....

Mon, 03 Sep 2012 19:42:23 -0400

Sometimes I wish I had more of a use for this blog. Although I haven’t had much to talk about. Which might be a good thing.

Oh man I feel bad when people actually start to like me because I don’t reciprocate it back,...

Sun, 19 Aug 2012 01:34:23 -0400

Oh man I feel bad when people actually start to like me because I don’t reciprocate it back, and I get sad and hurt by them just liking me. It’s dumb, but I feel terrible when people just have crushes on me because it’ll always be unrequited.

Is it strange being aro*, yet wanting the crest of love from digimon tattooed on your back? It was...

Mon, 16 Jul 2012 21:33:13 -0400

Is it strange being aro*, yet wanting the crest of love from digimon tattooed on your back? It was such a big part of my childhood, and while I’m not romantic it doesn’t mean I don’t love. 

9. What are some of your hobbies? drawing, video games, trying out any restaurant I can, oh crap I...

Mon, 18 Jun 2012 13:13:44 -0400

9. What are some of your hobbies?

drawing, video games, trying out any restaurant I can, oh crap I don’t have many interests… yeah this list is short